Disciplining With Love Series Part 1

Removing the ego

Understand they usually aren't making these mistakes or committing these acts intentionally to start a battle with you; woolrich uk womens so don't feel personally offended or attacked if your child forgets to load the dishwasher, or stays out past their curfew. Sometimes it's as simple as forgetting because they may have a lot on their minds, or a little more serious like falling into peer pressure and struggling to stand up for themselves. So, before your ego gets charged and starts making the offenses personal and getting you upset, remember 1; that your child is a human being that will make mistakes and mess-up (just like you) and they are still learning. 2. If they are continuing to make the same mistakes or mess-ups, you may need to figure out a better, more effective way to get your point across; if they aren't learning then YOU aren't teaching! You might have to swallow your pride and challenge your ego to take a back seat and compromise with your child or even let them take the lead in some situations because believe it or not parents do not have all the answers and working with your child instead of against them is better for all parties in the end.

Pick your battles

Not every action requires a reaction. canada goose womens Although it's sometimes difficult not to assert your authority or remind your child whose boss, stepping back and observing from a safe distance can allow for them to face natural consequences and gain a better understanding of the outcome of their choices. It can also help you understand their reasoning and it builds their problem solving skills.

There are some things my kids do that drives me crazy, but when I look more closely at the offense, canada goose it's usually has nothing to do with them, but more to do with me; my past or something that happened to me in my childhood that upset me. For instance; my daughter dresses very, VERY different, some times she will even wear costumes to school. When she comes out of her room wearing something I think is ridiculous I can literally feel the anxiety rise in me and I instantly want to tell her to go change! I learned that my anxiety has nothing to do with her style, but knowing she is going to stand out and as I child, I never wanted to stand out! It was my mission to always blend in and wear what everyone else was wearing because when I was in kindergarten I wore this "ugly" outfit and I was so embarrassed and humiliated I literally got sick and had to go home from school and THIS is the reason I have issues with the way she dresses! So before you get upset or something your kid does give you a "charge" wait before you react and decide if it's a battle worth picking!

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